Are You A Father Or A Daddy?

Father Knows BestI have come to realize that there is a huge difference between a father and a daddy.  I had a father, I’m trying to be a daddy.  So just for fun, here are a few differences between a father and a daddy:

A father changes a diaper by yelling, “Hon, the baby needs to be changed!”
A daddy can change a diaper while talking on the phone, and go right back to eating a sandwich.

A father still watches 2-3 football games every Sunday, in their entirety, LIVE!
A daddy thinks whoever invented TIVO should win the Nobel Prize.

A father looks like a deer in headlights when he hears, “I need to run out, you watch the kids for a while.”
A daddy enjoys being left alone with the kids because he can play with his kids while surfing the web and watching Sports Center.

A father can answer questions about the government and the stock market.
A daddy can also answer, “Who do we ask for help, when we don’t know which way to go?” and “Can We Build it?” (For the fathers, The map and YES, WE CAN!)

To a father, making lunch means opening a can of Spaghetti-Os or frozen pizza.
To a daddy, well this one’s a push.  Forget it.

To a father, a peaceful quiet moment actually requires Quiet and Peacefulness.
To a daddy, a peaceful quiet moment can include kids screaming and the lights and sounds of kids toys that make Times Square look tame, as long as he can sit on the couch and especially if he can watch a few minutes of Sports Center.

A father talks to his kids at dinner and might know the name of their kid’s best friend.
A daddy not only knows his kid’s friends, he knows which ones to stay clear of on the playground, and which one’s parents to stay clear of at birthday parties.

A father thinks the best thing he can do for his family is work hard and make as much money as he can so he can provide a nice home for his family and his children will have everything they need and most of what they want.

A daddy gets that, but he thinks the most important thing he can do for his family is to be present in his children’s lives and participate in forming the way they look at the world.

I’m trying real hard to be a daddy.  I don’t catch every big moment, but I get to see more than most, and that makes me pretty lucky. What about you?  Leave a comment and tell me what you think.

8 replies
  1. Lindsay says:

    Aww, great post. I’m glad that there are more “daddies” in today’s world. Men were always expected to be so stoic in past generations. I had a great dad, but my grandfather always seemed a distant fellow to me.

  2. Brandon Dove says:

    I love this. Father vs. Daddy. I actually work from home and hang out with my two kids all day while my wife is at work. I tell you, there is nothing I enjoy more than to hang out with my kiddos. My iPhone is great, but my DVR is the world’s greatest invention…EVER. Kids, stay away from anyone named Tommy and parents, stay away from Dorene.

  3. Travis says:

    I’m 40 years old and I’m the “daddy” for my 3-year-old daughter. She and I are also helping my “father” to discover his inner daddy. It is a lot of fun!

  4. David Sharpe says:

    I’m late to the party, but this is excellent!
    I’m a 47-yr old SAHD/entrepreneur with a 5yr old boy, and it can
    be easy to get the priority of the roles inverted.

    I’m printing this one off to post by the computer.

    @theguitarmaven

  5. Humbl3pi316 says:

    this is beautiful it brought tears to my eyes. i hope to give the man i love children some day. thanks for posting

  6. Ian Gordon says:

    Thanks for all the kind words and comments. This was something I wrote early on, and it always makes me smile when someone leaves a comment and gives me a reason to revisit it. So thanks guys!

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